Honor Your Emotions

Honor Your Emotions

It Is All About Honor: Honor the Hard Stuff. Then Rise.

“Subconscious biases and habits of mind dominate or influence 85%–95% of our emotions, judgments, reactions, decisions, behaviors, actions, and results.” — Peter Demarest
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When I first heard this statistic during my coaching certification, I nodded. Yes, of course, the subconscious influences us.

But when I really sat with it—85 to 95%? That hit differently.
It made me pause and reflect on how often we let our emotions lead… without truly realizing it. How often we react, rather than respond. How often we move through life on autopilot—without taking the time to honor our emotions and reconnect to the values that matter most.

How often do we let our reactions—not our values—shape the choices we make? How often do we let emotion steer the wheel, only to realize later that we weren’t actually living by what we care about most?

One of my clients told me, “Joy is my top value.” When I asked, “When was the last time you did something joyful?”—they were silent.

Another said, “Family is my highest priority,” but they had just canceled a family vacation because of work pressure.

It’s not hypocrisy.
It’s humanity.

The Honor Step Begins Here

Step two in the CHOOSE framework is Honor—and it’s all about cultivating emotional awareness. Not just of our habits and triggers, but of our deepest-held values.

We all experience moments when our reactions override our clarity. We know what matters… but we don’t always act on it.

So here’s the practice I invite you into this week:

🌱 Feel your feelings. But don’t let them drive the bus.
Honor your emotions—even the hard ones—but also pause to ask:
What value do I want to lead with right now?

Authenticity Isn’t Always What You Think

I once coached a teenage boy who proudly told me, “I’m just being my authentic self,” after describing his rude, disruptive behavior at home and school.

I smiled. Not because I dismissed his words—but because I knew how many adults walk around with that same belief.

But here’s the truth I wish more people knew:

Authenticity isn’t about acting on every emotion.

It’s about having the emotional awareness to recognize your reactions, then honor your emotions without letting them define your identity.

Authenticity means remembering who you were at your origin—your makor (מקור). In Hebrew, the word mekoree means authentic—and it shares its root with makor, which means origin.

You were born with joy.
You were born with kindness, curiosity, innocence.
You were born with the capacity to love, to learn, and to lead.

Over time, life layers on pain, stress, and defensiveness—and sometimes, we mistake those automatic, reactive behaviors for “who we are.”

Honor is the invitation to pause.
To reflect.
To peel back the layers and reconnect with your authentic self.
To honor your emotions, yes—but not be ruled by them.

That’s when we rise.

Try this today

Here are three practical ways to honor your emotions without letting them run the show:

1. Turn “Should” into “Could”
Saying “you should” can sound like blame. Try “you could” instead—it invites possibility and compassion, especially when you're feeling reactive.

2. Replace “Why” with “What”
“Why did you do that?” often sounds like an accusation. Try: “What were you hoping would happen?” It opens space for emotional awareness and insight.

3. Ask: What Now?
Instead of ruminating or regretting, bring yourself back to choice: What’s the next step I can take that reflects my values and helps me honor my emotions with intention?

A Personal Note on Honor

There were times in my life when I confused positivity with bypassing pain.
I thought, “If I just stay upbeat, I’ll be fine.”
But healing doesn’t come from skipping over pain. It comes from honoring it—gently, honestly—and still choosing to rise.
You get to feel what you feel.
You also get to choose how you move forward.
That’s the work of a champion.

🌟 Your Champion Action Step

If this message spoke to your heart, here’s a powerful way to honor the journey:

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Next week:we explore the joy and vulnerability of Openness—and how life surprises us when we soften.
With honor and heart,
Dorice
Be Positive, Be Yourself, Be the champion you want to see!
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Dorice Horenstein

Dorice Horenstein, renowned as the “Oy to Joy” International Champion Catalyst Speaker, transforms Disconnection to Engagment and tactics into practical strategies! As a Positive Intelligence expert and best-selling author of Moments of the Heart: Four Relationships Everyone Should Have to Live Wholeheartedly, Dorice energizes and motivates global audiences to uncover their inner champions. With a background in educational leadership, she has made the world her platform, fostering positive cultures by empowering individuals to overcome challenges, build resilience, and find joy, leading to personal and professional growth.

Dorice is a dynamic speaker whose energy and charisma have a global impact. Her core superpower is her ability to present, train, and coach effectively. She redefines “T.E.A.M.” as “Together Everyone’s Attributes are Magnified,” inspiring others to recognize their strengths, enhance effectiveness, and joyfully step into their destined leadership roles. Her mission is to cultivate healthy, positive relationships that reduce stress, increase retention rates, and create a more positive culture both at work and at home.