Welcome to
The REAL LIFE Disconnection Diagnostic™

A 3-minute check-in to reveal the gap between
where you are and where you want to be.

Before You Begin

What you’re about to see is not a label or a verdict. It’s a snapshot of alignment – how your mental fitness, values, energy, and relationships are showing up right now.

Disconnection is not a personal flaw. It’s a signal. It doesn’t usually show up as a breakdown; it shows up as fatigue, reactivity, guarded conversations, and a quiet loss of joy.

This diagnostic simply reveals where alignment may be leaking so reconnection can begin – internally first, and then with others.

Read your results with curiosity, not criticism.
Awareness is the first step from *Oy to Joy.

*Oy – i.e lack of peace, a sense of unsettling discomfort with where life is, negative emotions.

Simple Instructions

Answer honestly based on how things feel right now.
There are no right answers- only useful awareness.
The diagnostic consists of 16 questions and takes approximately 3 minutes.
After you click submit, stay on this page to view your results instantly..
A copy of your results will also be sent to your email.

The REAL LIFE Disconnection Diagnostic™

At the end of a typical workday, your body tells the truth first. You’re most likely to:

Feel mentally drained — I need a hot shower or bath to “wash the day off”

Feel tired but okay — I’m ready to collapse on the couch and watch something familiar

Feel completely depleted — I just want to fall asleep and disappear for a while

Feel energized and still have capacity — I could go for a 45–60 minute workout

Lately, your inner experience during the workweek feels more like:

Heavy or effortful — lots of “oy”

Flat, numb, or joyless

Grounded and steady

Busy, but manageable

A deadline is suddenly moved up and someone asks you for something “by end of day.” Your first internal response is:

I feel frozen, irritated, or want to avoid the request altogether

My mind speeds up, but I can still manage and push through

I pause, prioritize, and focus on what matters most

I start replaying mistakes or worrying I’ll drop the ball

When something triggers you — a comment, email, or situation — you are able to:

Realize it later and wish I’d handled it differently

React automatically or shut down

Catch myself most of the time

Pause and choose how I respond

In important conversations, especially when stakes are high, you notice that you:

Check out, get reactive, or shut down

Choose words carefully to avoid tension

Stay present and curious, even when I disagree

Listen, but part of me is preparing my response

After an important conversation, you usually walk away feeling:

Tense or like something was left unsaid

Neutral — we covered what we needed to

Clear, connected, and settled

Drained, misunderstood, or replaying it later

In your day-to-day relationships at work (clients, colleagues, team), you tend to show up as:

Emotionally distant or withdrawn

Present, patient, and attentive

Engaged, but often rushed

Easily irritated or guarded

If you asked people who work closely with you, they would most likely describe you as:

Reliable, but intense

Checked out, reactive, or hard to reach

Hard to read or unpredictable

Calm and grounded under pressure

When a relationship at work feels strained or awkward, your default move is to:

Withdraw emotionally or avoid the person

Push through and focus on results over repair

Pause and reflect on what might be mine to own

Feel frustrated but unsure how to address it

Before or during conversations, you are aware of what you’re bringing into the room (energy, tone, mindset):

Often

Almost always

Sometimes

Rarely

When you’re at work or in professional settings, you generally feel:

Like I’m playing a role depending on the room

Free to be myself — I don’t filter much

Like I’m wearing armor most of the time

Mostly myself, with a few adjustments

When decisions stack up — big or small — you tend to:

Feel clear and confident in my choices

Delay or avoid deciding as long as possible

Need some time, but eventually decide

Second-guess myself and replay options

When stress is high, you notice that your values:

Continue to guide my behavior

Are present, but strained

Take a back seat to urgency and pressure

Feel disconnected from how I’m actually acting

You’re offered a role with a significant salary increase, but it would require compromising values that matter to you. Your honest reaction is closest to:

I’d likely justify the compromise as temporary

I wouldn’t take it — alignment matters more than money

I’d seriously wrestle with it, but values would weigh heavily

I’d take it and push the discomfort aside

Moments of genuine joy or lightness during your workweek feel:

Natural and frequent

Rare

Almost nonexistent

Occasional

If you’re completely honest with yourself right now, you feel aligned with who you are and how you’re living:

something feels off

Mostly

Not really

Yes — deeply

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The REAL LIFE Disconnection Diagnostic™

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Welcome to
The REAL LIFE Disconnection Diagnostic™