In a recent coaching session with an executive, who was working on creating a different culture in his organization, a thought came into my awareness. … Read More
Some of you know that once a week I attend my local synagogue and volunteer to lead parts of the service. This week I was assigned to read from the scrolls, ancient Jewish text we call Torah (first 5 books of the bible)… Read More
“Who are you?” asked my soon to be married son, when he saw me. It was the Friday evening as the celebration of his upcoming wedding weekend began.… Read More
I am often invited to speak about Positivity in the workplace. And typically, a conversation about the differences between “toxic” positivity and the message and the tools that I bring forth come up.… Read More
Dorice, How can we handle challenging situations with people who have not attended Positive Intelligence training?
That was a question I was asked last week as I led a group of 14 leaders from HP!Who does NOT want to know how to handle challenging situations with challenging people whether they have taken the training or not ?– NO ONE. … Read More
I have been out of touch for a while! My son got married, that is why:)
Those who know me know that I am a person who loves celebrations! Give me a reason to celebrate. Let me dance, sing and rejoice! And I promise will step up to the plate. I will even do it when no one is watching! The last two weeks have been a continuous celebration of my son’s wedding. … Read More
Have you ever experienced wilderness? Being in the middle of absolutely no where?
I remember such an experience during my army days. I was to take my group of soldiers and walk to an unknown destination. We used topography, (a map that shows the natural and physical features of the nearby area) to get us acclimated and direct us to our final destination. … Read More
She was shaking. Her hands were trembling and her face was showing sighs of anguish.
That was the barista who served my coffee today.
I scheduled to meet a client who just returned from Nicaragua to hear about her experience and plan our next coaching session for her and her partner, and we were the next in line. It was taking a long time and I began making judgments about the service…… Read More
Canoeing adventure story – Join our family as we navigate chaos, laughter, and unforgettable moments, turning fails into pure joy on the water.
In this laugh-out-loud true story, Dorice Horenstein takes us on a wild canoeing adventure gone wrong… and incredibly right. From crashing into branches, flipping the canoe, bee attacks, to kids crying and a cooler rescue—everything that could go wrong did.
00:07 Introduction about joy and memories 00:38 Friend’s invitation to go canoeing 01:14 Getting ready for the adventure 02:30 Learning to paddle in unison 03:25 First obstacle: encountering bushes 04:45 Tension rises between couple 06:41 Attempted break leads to trouble 07:12 Canoe flips over into water 07:51 Discovery of dangerous beehive 08:49 Final reflection on choosing joy over difficulties
What if you could shift your brain from fear to joy in just minutes? In this powerhouse session, international speaker and Positive Intelligence expert Dorice Horenstein brings the science of mental fitness to life—with laughter, energy, and practical tools to transform how you lead, live, and connect.
What you’ll Learn:
Why your brain defaults to negativity—and how to shift it How saboteurs hijack your strengths and sabotage your success The neuroscience of joy, resilience, and performance The “OY to JOY” method that helps you lead with energy and presence The 3 mental fitness muscles that change everything
💡 Featuring interactive games, real stories, and a whole lot of joy, this session will help you identify your inner saboteurs and start rewiring your brain for success. 🔥 Whether you’re a leader, team builder, or growth-minded human—this is your invitation to get on the Brain Train. 📘 Learn more at: https://www.doricehorenstein.com
What if fear, doubt, or self-criticism are the only things standing between you and your goals? At the Nike Headquarters, motivational speaker Dorice Horenstein reveals her simple yet powerful system — RELOC — to help you overcome fear, strengthen self-belief, and turn your goals into reality. Through personal stories, humor, and wisdom, Dorice shows you how to reframe your mindset, reconnect with your purpose, and build the confidence to take action. If you’re ready to shift from hesitation to empowerment, this talk is for you.
0:02 – Standing at Nike HQ — a full-circle moment 0:21 – We can’t change yesterday, but we can inspire tomorrow 0:31 – The tree of your childhood and the tree you nurture today 0:48 – A joyful story about Elvis and finding laughter 1:00 – Introduction to RELOC: Dorice’s system for achieving goals 1:11 – Why RELOC isn’t in the dictionary 1:23 – The power of emotion and love behind your goals 1:42 – How self-talk shapes your success 2:15 – The importance of loving your goal 2:24 – Challenges that get in the way — and how to name them 2:43 – Common struggles: fear, doubt, communication issues 3:14 – The real “F” word: Fear and how it paralyzes progress 3:37 – Learning about yourself — internal knowledge 3:52 – Funny story: “We are desert people” 4:03 – The foundation of self-relationship and awareness 4:23 – Acts of kindness as lasting legacy 4:39 – Becoming your own legacy 4:44 – “We are the champions!” group affirmation 5:04 – Daily affirmation: “Day by day, I get better and better” 5:28 – Closing message: “I believe in you. You can do this.”
Transcript:
(0:02) How interesting it is that four decades later, I’m standing here at the Nike headquarters (0:09) wearing not my usual speaking attire, but Levi’s and a pair of Nike shoes. (0:21) What I learned that day is that while we cannot change our yesterday, we can inspire our tomorrow. (0:31) And today, I invite you to think about the tree of your childhood and the tree that you want to (0:41) nurture today.
And, you know, I remember growing up, she would say to my dad, she says, (0:48) if Elvis walked through these doors, don’t get offended, but I’m going with him. I’m just leaving. (0:55) Never mind, he never showed up, you know, so tell and share with everybody something joyful (1:00) they’re doing this weekend.
One person, yes. My system for achieving your goal, it’s called (1:07) RELOC. It’s an acronym, don’t look at the dictionary, you will not find what it is.
(1:11) And some people said to me, oh, Doris, you spelled it wrong. And I was like, no, I spelled it right. (1:16) And it’s just a simple question.
You have your goal, you don’t have your goal. What is it for you? (1:23) You know, love is a great word. It’s not only a noun and a verb, but it’s also emotion, (1:29) value, attribute.
What is the emotions that you put into this? Do you get up in the morning and (1:36) say, yeah, got to do this thing, right? Or you get up in the morning, I get to do this thing, (1:42) to penetrate into your psyche and say, oh, you know, fill your mind with self-criticism, (1:48) self-doubt, you know, you can’t do this goal, you might as well quit now. Or do you say to yourself, (1:55) no, I want to do this. This is important to me.
And that, of course, is connected to how you talk (2:02) to yourself. How do you talk? Look at this man. He loves whatever he’s going to do.
You can see it. (2:09) You can see it. You can feel the energy in his body.
So we talked about reason for your goal. (2:15) We talked about love for your goal. And then sometimes other things happen.
(2:24) With all of our intentions, something happens, challenges happen. (2:29) This vendor didn’t produce the product in time. This team did not do the timeline.
You tell me, (2:37) what other challenges you think you would be facing with your goal? What would it be? Fear (2:43) and doubt. Yes. Yes.
You say to yourself, oh, my God, what did you say? Communication challenges. (2:52) I can’t really explain or I don’t or you are not explaining the other person. And then you get to (2:58) be overwhelmed.
You say, what about if I don’t succeed? I don’t have the money. I have the fear (3:06) and the doubt. I’m not communicating.
What am I going to do? And then the four letter F word (3:14) comes into mind. And I don’t know what you guys are thinking of. (3:20) But I am thinking of fear.
Fear comes up. And that fear paralyzes you. That fear (3:30) doesn’t allow you to move forward.
And then the other part is the internal knowledge. (3:37) It’s who you are. What do you need to learn about yourself so that you make your goal a reality? (3:45) So he comes to me and he says, Ima, which means mom, why haven’t we learned how to ski in our (3:52) family? So I say, son, we are the desert people.
What I learned is that the foundational block of (4:03) the relationship we have in this world starts with the relationship we have with ourselves. (4:09) Do we have that self-awareness of what we bring to every interaction? (4:15) Oh, my gosh. Give yourself a clap, everybody.
Look at these words. Look at these words. (4:23) Yes.
Yes. Kindness in a way is leaving a legacy. What’s the legacy that you want to leave behind (4:32) to the people that you love and the people that appreciate you? What’s the legacy? (4:39) And whatever that legacy is, become it now.
We are champions. Are we ready? But loud. (4:44) Really loud.
Ready? We are the champions. (4:52) So here we go. Are we ready? I know I have the ability to achieve my goal.
(5:04) I have my reason. I know my why. (5:12) Day by day and in every way, I get better and better.
Oh, yeah. (5:17) Day by day. Excellent.
(5:25) That maybe next time I see you, wherever it is, (5:28) that you’ll tell me, Doris, I did my re-lock. I believe in you. I know you can.
Identity is more than just a label. Discover how overcoming fear and embracing self-reflection can help you unlock your true identity and transform your life.
In this motivational story, I share how I overcame the fear of letting go and discovered my true identity. Through personal growth and self-discovery, I embarked on a journey of finding my authentic self, which was shaped by overcoming challenges in life. This story includes powerful leadership lessons learned during my time in Israeli military training, which taught me about resilience and the importance of embracing both my cultural identity and leadership journey.
By letting go of limiting beliefs and embracing mindfulness, meditation, and spirituality, I transformed my life and found my true identity. This journey is a testament to the power of overcoming fear—whether it’s through practicing how to let go, or learning how to overcome fear from experiences like Sadhguru meditation.
As I reflect on family traditions and the values that shaped me, I realized that discovering my authentic self was the key to personal transformation. This video is an inspirational journey that shows how you can unlock your true identity by embracing self-improvement and learning to beat fear. Storytelling plays a pivotal role in my experience of growth, and this is not just a motivational speech—it’s an invitation to challenge your own beliefs and unlock the potential within.
Watch this video to find out how letting go can be the first step toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. Discover how to beat fear and start your journey toward finding your true self today.
00:00 Son moves to New York and learns to ski 00:57 Family heritage as desert people 01:22 Introduction to Israeli military officer training 02:00 First round of cuts in officer training 02:26 Challenging decision to select peers for elimination 02:57 Jewish tradition about three types of names 04:03 Personal reflection on authentic identity 04:56 Final results of officer training 05:04 Life lesson about foundational relationships
Transcript:
(0:01) My son moved to New York from this amazing Northwest. (0:06) I don’t know what he was thinking, (0:08) but he wanted to move to the magnificent Manhattan area. (0:11) Yeah, here you go.
(0:12) Some people are here from Manhattan. (0:15) So he was there, and he decided he’s (0:17) going to try new experiences. (0:20) He’s a young man.
(0:22) And one of the new experiences he did, (0:24) he decided to learn how to ski. (0:26) Now this mama here doesn’t ski. (0:29) Don’t.
(0:30) I don’t like the cold. (0:32) I don’t like the layers of clothing on me. (0:35) The best thing I know what to do in the snow, (0:37) have a really great cup of cocoa, sit by a fireplace, (0:40) read a book.
(0:40) That’s me. (0:42) So my son calls me the other day and said, (0:44) Ima, which in Hebrew means mom, why haven’t we (0:48) learned how to ski in our family? (0:50) Because clearly it’s a family tradition not to ski. (0:53) Not only me.
(0:54) So I said, son, we are the desert people. (1:00) We walked in the desert for 40 years. (1:04) And then we got to Israel, and guess what? (1:06) It’s really hot over there.
(1:07) So we did not rest over there. (1:09) We did not like the snow over there either. (1:12) And then it got me thinking about finding (1:14) your authentic self.
(1:16) Find the identity which you have, which everyone has. (1:20) And it reminded me of this story that I (1:21) would like to share with you. (1:22) I was 18 years old, drafted into the Israeli military (1:26) like everybody else in Israel.
(1:28) I finished my boot camp, and then I (1:30) moved on to officer training because I (1:32) wanted to be an officer in the Israeli army. (1:36) 60 young 18-year-old Israelis joined to be in this training. (1:40) And we were told on the first day of training (1:43) that only 20 will graduate.
(1:47) 40 will be let go. (1:48) We did not know who will be let go. (1:53) Would it be me, them? (1:54) I don’t know.
(1:56) The next month, it got a little clearer (1:58) because the lieutenant and the sergeants came to the room (2:01) and gave us a list of the first 20 to be cut. (2:05) I wasn’t cut. (2:07) I was part of the 40.
(2:08) In the next month, I worked so hard, so intense (2:12) like all the other 40 women. (2:13) We exerted ourselves to the place we did not know existed. (2:18) And we did not know, will they cut me out? (2:21) Will they cut my friend out? (2:22) We were not sure.
(2:24) Well, two months into it, the lieutenant and the sergeants (2:27) came into the room and said, this time, each one of you, (2:32) officer in training, is going to choose five women (2:35) that you are going to let go. (2:39) I thought to myself, what will I do? (2:42) Who will I choose to leave? (2:44) They’re all my friends. (2:45) They became my sisters.
(2:46) Who is going to let me out? (2:48) This was a pure choice. (2:51) Oh my gosh. (2:52) If there was a night that I did not sleep, it was that night.
(2:56) Who will I let go? (2:57) And then I remembered a saying from my Jewish tradition (3:02) that is true today as it was then. (3:06) There are three names by which a person is called. (3:10) The name their parents called them, (3:12) the name people call them, and the name they call themselves.
(3:17) And then the verse continues. (3:20) And the most important thing is the name you make for yourself. (3:27) I thought to myself, the name my parents call me, my roots, (3:32) that’s not going to define who I am.
(3:35) How much money my parents have, what jobs they held, (3:39) what status they have, does not matter right here and now. (3:41) Here in this officer training course. (3:45) Have you ever been called by names (3:46) that people did not like you? (3:48) Or names that maybe like you? (3:50) Some names are full of tenderness and love, (3:53) but other names may put us down.
(3:55) They’re not names that we agree to be called. (3:59) Guess what? (3:59) This did not matter either. (4:02) But the name you make for yourself by your actions, (4:06) that’s the name that will be everlasting forever.
(4:10) So when I thought about this sentence, (4:12) in that 24 hours of no sleeping, can we make a new friendship? (4:17) Can I make a new apology? (4:20) Can I be who I’m not? (4:21) Just so I can make it to the very end, (4:24) so I can be one of the 20 to finish this officer training (4:28) course. (4:30) The next morning, each one of us brought (4:34) a list of five people we believe should not (4:37) continue in this course. (4:40) The officers and the lieutenant took it, put it in a basket, (4:44) went away, and a few hours later, (4:46) they came back with the result of the remaining 20.
(4:50) I was one of the remaining 20 in the very end. (4:54) If there was one time that I thought of the actions (4:57) and the implications of my action, (4:59) that was truly that day. (5:03) What I realized and learned is that the foundational block (5:06) of the relationship that we have in this world (5:09) starts with ourselves, that that is the number one.
(5:14) So I want you, and I challenge you, (5:16) and I invite you to talk to me during our breakout sessions.
In this video, I reveal the secret to making a million dollars. Learn proven strategies and insights that can transform your financial future. Whether you’re an aspiring entrepreneur or someone looking to achieve financial independence, this guide is for you.
Key Takeaways: Proven strategies for wealth building Insights into financial independence Practical tips for aspiring entrepreneurs
0:00 – Million-Dollar Mindset 0:35 – What’s Blocking Your Success? 1:10 – Shift to Positive Thinking 2:00 – Understanding “Oi”: The Saboteur State 3:00 – From Oi to Joy 4:00 – How Joy Drives Success 5:00 – Breakthrough Tips for Self-Sabotage 6:00 – The Science of Success: Positive Intelligence 6:40 – 3 Mental Muscles for Millions 7:00 – Become Your Own Champion
Transcript:
(0:00) Are you ready to have the million dollar mindset? Yes, yes. Get ready for videos that inspire you (0:06) to be the best version of yourself. Joyful, positive, effective, productive.(0:16) Hello, everyone. Who wants to make millions of dollars in the next? Yeah. Okay.Make sure you (0:22) come here because the first million is on me. All right. I’m going to tell you how to make this (0:27) money.I love this first million. Yes, yes, yes. I’m going to tell you also what blocks you from (0:34) getting there.And the first thing I want to ask is a question. Okay. I want you to answer me the (0:41) first answer that comes to your mind.The question will be right here. What is not wrong with your (0:50) life? I bet you, if you’re like 99.9% of the population, this question caught you by surprise. (0:58) Because the first thing you think is what is wrong with our life.Our brain naturally go to that place (1:07) of what is wrong. Why? Because that’s how we were created at the beginning of time. We had to know (1:14) about the poisonous leaf, the dangerous person.We were operated so many times from the sympathetic (1:24) nervous system. In today’s session, I’m going to move your brain wave, even without you knowing, (1:32) to the different part of your brain. And when some things are hard, I call it being in a state (1:39) of OI.Everybody say OI. OI. OI is when we feel negative emotions, negative feelings, (1:50) negative thoughts, right? Thoughts goes into our emotions or our feelings, and then it’s in a loop.(1:55) And sometimes when it’s a long time in a loop, then it translates as a behavior. It translates (2:00) as an action. When I talk about OI, I talk about stress, overwhelm, anxiety, imposter syndrome, (2:12) self-worthiness that is low.I talk about guilt and blame and shame and anger. Raise your hand if (2:21) you experienced any of these negative emotions. We all have.You are all human. So now the question (2:29) is, how do we move from that OI? And when you feel that place where you can really vibe with somebody (2:37) in a positive way, I call it being in a state of joy. Joy is the opposite of OI.I’m known as the (2:46) OI to joy champion catalyst. First of all, let’s all shout together joy, right? On the count of three. (2:54) One, two, three.Yes. And when you are in a state of joy, the one thing about being in that joy, (3:02) where I’m going to take you throughout today, is a place where you have to be in the present. (3:08) You can’t say, oh, I’m going to be joyful when something happens, right? Joy is being right here.(3:15) It’s feeling connected. Joy is when you feel a sense of optimism. Joy is when you say yes to (3:24) that mindset.You make a choice every day where you want to lead your life. Do you want to have (3:31) more products? Do you want to have a better team building relationship? Do you want to get (3:39) yourself more educated? Do you want to have less angry, less blame? Think of one thing (3:47) that you want to do. Because if we think about everything, nothing can happen.But here’s what (3:53) I’m going to tell you. Every day, you or someone on your team actually sabotages that. Every day.(4:06) Now, how do I know that? Because every day, somebody will have negative emotions. And by (4:14) negative emotions, I mean the stress, the blame, the anger, the doubt, the imposter syndrome, (4:24) the insecurities. Every single day, somebody or you on your team will exhibit that.(4:31) So when I talk about the saboteurs, and I’ll use the word saboteurs, (4:36) I mean negative emotions. And when I talk, a lot of people, first thing that comes to their mind (4:42) is, aren’t negative emotions sometimes good for us? Don’t we need them to grow and survive (4:52) and accomplish things? So if you ask this question, which is totally valid, (4:58) I want to ask you back a question. Is pain good for you? Raise your hand if you think pain is good (5:08) for you.Yeah, I agree with you. Pain is good for you. Imagine you didn’t feel pain.Your hand (5:15) will be burnt to the bone. So of course you feel pain. The million-dollar question is, (5:24) how long? We all are entitled to bad days, right? But if you continue that (5:31) day in and day out and day in and day out, then it becomes your personality.(5:38) And so the question is, who do you want to become? But here is the truth. All of your saboteurs (5:47) come from a place, originated in a place of strength. Your strengths are being used and abused (5:57) until they become saboteurs.Positive intelligence is not a woo-woo out there. No, it deals with (6:04) four different sciences, positive psychology, cognitive psychology, neuroscience, and performance (6:10) science. I distilled everything that we know into three core muscles.Number one, what are the (6:17) saboteurs and how we intercept them? Number two, we’re going to learn what is the sage? (6:24) How do we access them? And number three, we’re going to learn about self-command. What is the (6:30) price that I’m paying staying in the saboteur land? And is this worth it? You are an amazing (6:37) human being. You are what I call, and that’s what my book is, the champion in your own life.(6:44) I want you to stand up. Yes, stand up. Yes.Shake your body. Move your body. Yeah, yeah, yeah.(6:49) Exactly. And I want you to reflect in all honesty on this. What is the impact? Still stand up.What (6:57) is the impact of your saboteur on your productivity, on your relationship, and on your wellness?
